New Habits

Let me reintroduce myself. I embarked on my self-improvement journey back in November-December of 2023. This was a month after I broke up with my partner who I was with for two years. Two years of feeling small, not worthy or growing towards anything of value. Most of my energy was spent on trying to make a narcissist happy, which, as we know is a lost cause. I don’t regret the relationship, I’m so thankful for it. It made me realize my worth and my potential. I knew the only person who could save me was me. I wanted to change this small, insecure, anxious 25 year old girl into a woman. A woman who makes her own money, is in control of her mind, and is powerful.

There were many habits that I would have to incorporate into my life in order to become that woman. Reading, journaling, meditating, and learning were all things I wanted to focus my energy on. I knew those were things that were going to perpetuate me to that future, higher self. It’s been a journey so far, I still have so much to go but I am proud of who I am at this moment. I will continue to share all that I’ve learned. I have kept up with my journaling since I started and will share with you all. I love self-improvement. It has saved me. Striving towards a goal or dream gives me hope, gives me life. I want to run my own business. Whether that is in fashion, fitness, self-improvement or a mix of the three I will continue to work on growing it. I have this website/blog and my social media. There are days where I am unsure of what it is I’m doing, it feels like my dream is not a clear picture but I have an idea of what it is. I will not stop, I know I am doing the things to help me get to where I want to be. Inspiring and helping others.

One thing about me is I am always going. I am always thinking of ways I could be self-improving or something I could be doing to work on my business. Sometimes I am a little overwhelmed because there are LOTS of things I can be doing and I want to manage my time better to accomplish these goals. Yesterday I was so drained, I sat in bed after work and put on a book I was reading by Earl Nightingale. He mentioned something about Lincoln and the Gettysburg Address. I wanted to read that speech and as I did I had some sort of epiphany. I realized how much I love learning. I was the happiest in my life when I was acquiring new knowledge on a daily basis. I love to feel well-rounded in knowledge. I decided I was going to take 30 minutes every day on a specific subject. This can all be done at my job, there are many good podcasts, youtube videos, and audiobooks to listen to. The areas of study I choose to focus on are history, philosophy, psychology, critical thinking, and linguistics. I also want to add in math games.

Deciding to add this to my daily routine inspired me to create a well-thought-out routine in order to get everything I need done in a day. I’ve always been good about getting things done but there was room for improvement, to be more efficient. I really want to see my efforts transpire in my life. I wrote down everything I could think of that I do on a daily basis and things I want to add in so I can achieve my goals. Luckily I have a planner that is broken down into time slots. Right now, I am right on track. Drafting up a blog post from 12 pm-1 pm. It is now 12:51. Next I have fitness content creation and fitness plan check in. I am keeping in mind that life happens and I might now always be right on track but I will finish those tasks even if that means staying up an extra hour.

Writing everything down and making a plan has changed my attitude. Before, I felt like I was drowning, thinking of all the things I needed to do. Now I have a plan of action, I can see all the things I need to get done on paper with the allowed time so I don’t burn out. I am excited to keep myself disciplined, to hopefully inspire you to take the next step. To change your reality. I would love to hear from you if you are reading this and feel motivated in any way. You can find me on Tiktok, Instagram, Snapchat, and Youtube. 

With much love,

Lofray

Elle Woods Moment